Father's Birthday and Video Update.

Hey Everyone,

Recently I wrote on my facebook.

"Kuv Leej Txiv, Cas hnub kuv los tsev los nrog koj ua kev zoo siab rau koj hnub yug es, tsis pom koj? Cas mam li mus txog tom tojntxa es, thiaj li tau hu nkauj "Happy Birthday" rau koj os. Kuv nco koj os!!! I miss you Dad, Happy Birthday!!!!"

It translates to, "My dearest father, I come to celebrate your birthday at the house, but why were you not there? why did I have to go the grave side to finally be able to sing "Happy Birthday" to you. I miss you!"

May 7th was the brithday of my Father, he would have been 51 if he was able to celebrate with us today. As my brother, Bear, said "You were always a man of few words", my dad was. Every year, when it was his birthday, he would never mention it to anyone. My father did not expect to receive any gifts or official celebration for his birthday. So there has been a few years where we have not celebrated. It's sad for me to realize that finally when are able to celebrate his birthday, it's when he passed away. 


Part of my family was able to visit him the day before his birthday, due to their obligations. The other part of my family, and I was able to visit him on the day of.  It really was the saddest thing. To see again the burial ground. To see that everything is still very true. To see and understand that, that is him in the ground. My tears came down like an endless heavy rain storm. I still to this day, feel like he has never left. I can't believe it has been 5 months since his passing. Time flies, and it flies quick. For me, school really distracted me and took me away from all of this sorrow.  But my dreams and memories of those final days with him, are still very bright.


I surely do miss my dad. There is so much that words cannot describe, and only the ones who have experienced this before, will know. 


I am very grateful for all his years! Through all the troubles, struggles, pain, and ventures to get us where we are today, I surely thank him. For all the happiness, joy, laughter, and support, I immensely thank him! With out him, I wouldn't be where I am today. When I needed him the most he was there, but now, I'll have to take matters into my own hands. He has taught our family well. He has brought us up to work hard, and to understand that life is hard, but have fun with it. He never let anything hold him back. 


I especially love my generation of parents, because they have so much history and life to them. They are full of experiences that I personally think should be captured. I was intending to start a project with my parents this summer where I record as much as their life story as possible. Their travels to America, and where they lived in Thailand.  This was the summer I was going to do that. Unfortunately, I will only be able to get what my mom remembers for both my mom and dad. I am for sure, going to record my mom's story on how she got to America and her travels and adventure here. My parents might be hard to change, but they all have a reason for what they do, and why they do it. So in addition, I challenge first generation kids to record their parent's story. I challenge kids who have immigrated to the America, to record their story. These are stories that we have never experienced, and hopefully will not. These are the stories, that make us who we are. These are the stories that make people like my dad, gave so much more meaning and purpose to life.


SO I LOVE YOU DAD! Happy Birthday! SAUM NTUJ NTSUAB XIAB LOS HAUV KUV SIAB, kuv yuav nco nstoov koj. (up in the clear sky/heaven or in my Heart, I will always remeber you)

So to lighten up this kind of depressing blog post, here is a video update from Ryan James Yezak's Music video remaking adventures. He is the same producer of the "California Girl/gays" parody video, which I posted earlier. They just get better and better.

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